Leaving Singlehood?

Love is in the air. Do you smell the chocolate and flower scent? Or rather, do you hear your wallet screaming in pain as more cash is being poured out? This Saturday is Valentine's Day. In other words, it's the time of the year again where couples around the world celebrate this special day of love. Hm, ever wondered the origin of Valentine's Day? Well, let me give you a brief introduction into this special occasion. =)

" Valentine's Day or Saint Valentine's Day is a holiday celebrated on February 14 by many people throughout the world. In the West, it is the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other by sending Valentine's cards, presenting flowers, or offering confectionery. The holiday is named after two among the numerous Early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The day became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. An alternative theory from Belarus states that the holiday originates from the story of Saint Valentine, who upon rejection by his mistress was so heartbroken that he took a knife to his chest and sent her his still-beating heart as a token of his undying love for her. Hence, heart-shaped cards are now sent as a tribute to his overwhelming passion and suffering."

There is actually more than 1 type of Valentine's Day available and I believe many, if not most of us would love and enjoy celebrating this year, or at least us whose hormones are still very much raging. Then, again, is all this really true love? Hm, how do we even define what true love is? There's a verse in the bible that writes "there's no greater love than one who's willing to lay down his life for another ". And somebody did exactly just this. Who's the guy? He's none other than Christ Jesus. 2009 years ago, he was sent to earth by our Father in heaven to die on the cross for our sins and to suffer for our wrongdoings. What other love can be compared to someone who's willing to die, for our sake and faults. I will leave that for you to think. I know for one, I wouldnt be able to do such task, or at least would choose to be like Peter, cheat my way out of troubles.

It's of course not wrong to get yourself a girlfriend but unless you are serious and ready to commit then it's really pointless to do so. Talk is cheap. I aint trying to judge anybody here but all the talks of undying love and certain people being your reason of living is really hypocritical unless you really mean it! I remembered Jit once said that the heart is just like a ping pong ball. When it's crushed, just putting it in hot water and it will return to its original shape. No doubt if we have been hurt in relationship, we could move on but the scar will always remain there. Like it or not, things will never be the same again.

I read of an interesting analogy before where before a guy got married, all his ex-girlfriends came up at him and he felt ashamed in front of his future wife because he had given a part of his heart away and it was not whole for her. How sad but this is the reality of today. If we start a relationship just as a try out or driven by emotions, we will be like going on the road with a gas tank half-filled. It will start out smoothly but it will die down halfway through. The results, hurt for both parties. Ouch! I am pretty sure some, if not most of you have such experience, or experiences ( which I hope not ) before.

So, being in love is more than just telling I Love You. It's to actually mean it. Being in love is more than just celebrating Valentine's Day together once a year but to make everyday as significant as Valentine's Day. Being in love is not finding the perfect guy/girl, it's to see perfection in the other party. Being in love means more than just being around each other everyday but to feel and know of one another's presence despite the fact you both are as far as two different ends of the world. Being in love means commiting your life to one another.

L.O.V.E means Loving One another V Everything? Haha. I came up with that. Lame, I know.

As for the title, I aint leaving singlehood..just yet. I don't know when my time will come but well, who's rushing? I know I always say about getting a girlfriend but before I learn to love God, my parents and people around me whole heartedly, I am not qualified to say I really love someone or to deserve the other person's love. Well, I take this opportunity to wish every couples HAPPY VALENTINE"S DAY and for those who are still single, let's enjoy every moment of it.

p/s: This post is not meant to condemn or judge anybody. Just a piece of the writer's mind. Any

events mentioned is purely coincidental.